“The great wisdom traditions tell us, paradoxically, that only when we love ourselves do we truly find who we are. In relationships, this means lowering our defenses and barriers, ceasing to defend who we think we are and what we think we need. Psaris and Lyons reveal this insight skillfully and gently. This lesson is crucial in our narcissistic age, where love seems to elude so many.”
— Larry Dossey, M.D., Reinventing Medicine and Healing Words

“An inspiring and practical approach to lasting, loving relationships. The writing is crisp, the message clear, the effect profound.”
— Jennifer and John Welwood, Journey of the Heart and Love and Awakening

“I immediately found myself underlining ideas on almost every page. Psaris and Lyons’ methods make so much sense; this book shows exactly how to use our biggest difficulties as the keys to becoming more deeply authentic, in love, and happily committed. A major achievement!”
— Carol Adrienne, The Purpose of Your life The Celestine Prophesy: An Experiential Guide

“Undefended Love is an invaluable resource for both identifying the major obstacles to intimacy and offering powerful modern and ancient tools for becoming undefended partners and our essential selves in all of our relationships.”
— Angeles Arrien, Ph.D. The Four-Fold Way and Signs of Life

“There is a new paradigm of relationship emerging from the shattered marriages of the past forty years. For the authors the key is a new kind of love, a love that is not burdened by the host of selves that are designed to keep us safe and separate from each other. Most of all, Undefended Love is about a totally new kind of intimacy that is possible when one’s heart is opened to the deeper possibilities of conscious relationships.”
— Hal and Sidra Stone, Embracing Ourselves and Embracing Each Other

“If intimacy is understood as stripping away your outer, more public ways of being and sharing your inner life with another, the Psaris and Lyons have written the definitive guidebook. Their description of the conditioned self and the journey to authenticity is not only precise and thorough, but extremely readable as well. For anyone on a journey to intimacy, this book will be a great delight to read.”
— Susan Page, How One of You Can Bring Two of You Together

“Our deep and aching desire for enduring love drives many of us repeatedly into relationships that offer little chance of lasting fulfillment. In Undefended Love, Psaris and Lyons go straight to the heart of what is most important to all of us: how to be in an intimate relationship that nourishes and sustains us and our partner. Undefended Love calls us to an expression of the courage and compassion needed to authentically know who we are and fearlessly share that truth with another person, to come home to ourselves, and experience the powerful joy of truly intimate loving. It is a jewel of a book.
— Mary Manin Morrissey, Building Your Field of Dreams